We are going even deeper

Ok, I said change of direction, but in reality this is more in line with the way we have been adjusting our lives in the last few years.

We are pulling our eldest from school and taking on the journey of free learning with her.

I had played with the idea years ago, but had that uncertainty of whether I will be able to teach her everything she “should” be thought. I guess I needed the time to grow and be able to see that just because the institution called school says something has to be learned, doesnt make it so. Just like I question doctors and take responsibility for any other area of my life, I found its time to do the same with my daughter’s education.

And the second I started to think, I knew what the answer was going to be. And then when I even opened the subject with Mr.Blab, his eyes brightened with excitement at the prospect and exileration at the possibilities.

Some of you may be asking why on earth am I even contemplating such a move and these are in short some of the reasons:

  • learning is not and should never be made boring by regimenting it and putting it in the hands of people who have taken the job of teachers just because there was nothing better to do
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  • everything you do day in day out with little to no autonomy, rights , personal creative input or respect for your own identity becomes utterly boring – like school
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  • learning is not and should not be about grades or competition, rather a free exploration leading to self discovery and building a knowledge and respect of your own abilities that is not based on other’s judgment, but firmly on your own – no one can take that away from you
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  • I want that for my children, to be free from the tyranny of outside approval and judgement. To be able to listen to their own voice and most importantly to know that it is more valuable than that of those around them.
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  • Children are, well, children. Its not normal for them to be still and to sit quietly while being thought something. At some points in the day they may be able to take on more and at others they might not. Expecting them to be receptive on schedule and when its convenient to us is utterly ridiculous.
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  • I want the main influences in my children’s lives to be us, their loving parents, rather than random children from various backgrounds and beliefs with some we completely disagree with or grown ups who see them as just one of the many pupils they have to deal with. Peer pressure, bullying and cliques are things children cannot escape from, even if they wanted to, since they are locked in the same environment and just have to deal. Some more successfully than others.
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  • Jumping from one institution to another – school, university, job – is not what I have envisioned for my kids. Where is the freedom in this? Where is the time to discover yourself and figure out what it is that you want to do. Being judged and labeled throughout your life does not leave you much to work out yourself.
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  • Schools promote conformity.
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  • Socialization means acquiring the skills and knowledge needed to participate in society. Being segregated away from it doing things you will mostly never do/use outside of the school system with people of your exact age does not fit the bill. Living within it every day, meeting and dealing with people of all ages and backgrounds, does.
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  • I didnt have children so that someone else can raise them for me.
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  • I didnt have children so that someone else can spend more time with them than me and “teach” them about life and the world
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  • No body else has their best interests in mind, like us as their parents.
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  • We not only love our kids, but we like them too. Spending time with them is a pleasure not a chore. And if it was not, why woud I think anyone else would like to do it either.
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  • Why…Why on earth¬† have I lived, learned, stumbled, discovered, struggled, cried, laughed¬† and gathered all that experience and life wizdom, if I dont pass it on to my own children?
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  • and on and on…I cant collect my thoughts enough for this list. My brain is buzzing and unable to put it all down.

We are excited. She is excited, which surprised me a bit, as she seemed to enjoy school, but her emphathic “YEAAAAH!” in responce to my tentative suggestion told me otherwise. The prospect of being the main guardians and nurturers of her learning is making fizzy bubbles in my creative juices. Oh, the possibilities. Oh, the wonderous world of discovery and joy that can be had with “teaching”.

Up and away we go. Wish us luck, as I will need deschooling as well, in order to provide the right environment for her to florish in. But worried we are not, as what is the worst that can happen? It all falls apart and we send her back to school ;)